Gosh this is so true! I recently did exactly this a "friend" had messaged me about something she didn't agree with to do with my oldest daughter. A lot of what she said I didn't agree with, some facts were just completely fabricated and whilst I spent a considerable time constructing replies in my head I instead decided the best form of reply was none at all. So I deleted her messages (I didn't want them in my inbox) and left it at that. I believe it might be called "a dignified silence" either way, it felt good that I didn't have to reply and indeed stopped the conversation there. Because if you don't engage with someone it's very difficult for them to have anything to come back from. Thank you for this very timely reminder.
Firstly, I'm so sorry you've been on the receiving end of this too. It's so hard when a friend & someone you have trusted just breaks the friendship so easily. What you've have written could have been written by me too, every single part, especially the constructing replies in my head.
It really wasn't easy for me to say nothing, I am very reactive and it can land me in arguments I don't wish to be in, so saying nothing was initially a hard one but ultimately the best one.
And I think there is a quote along the lines of: If people want you to write warmly of them then they should have behaved better.
Yes ✨ as someone who has maybe sometimes always needed the last word (🤣) which can get me into an argument I didn't plan on, I find silence so powerful. It's clear statement of: "No. You aren't treating me that way."
Gosh this is so true! I recently did exactly this a "friend" had messaged me about something she didn't agree with to do with my oldest daughter. A lot of what she said I didn't agree with, some facts were just completely fabricated and whilst I spent a considerable time constructing replies in my head I instead decided the best form of reply was none at all. So I deleted her messages (I didn't want them in my inbox) and left it at that. I believe it might be called "a dignified silence" either way, it felt good that I didn't have to reply and indeed stopped the conversation there. Because if you don't engage with someone it's very difficult for them to have anything to come back from. Thank you for this very timely reminder.
Firstly, I'm so sorry you've been on the receiving end of this too. It's so hard when a friend & someone you have trusted just breaks the friendship so easily. What you've have written could have been written by me too, every single part, especially the constructing replies in my head.
It really wasn't easy for me to say nothing, I am very reactive and it can land me in arguments I don't wish to be in, so saying nothing was initially a hard one but ultimately the best one.
And I think there is a quote along the lines of: If people want you to write warmly of them then they should have behaved better.
The post came at the perfect time. Thank you for the empathetic reminder to walk your own path, no matter initial discomfort. 💕
It really can be so hard to walk a path that is maybe not aligned with what many consider the norm, but so worthwhile.
Silence is also a reply. A very powerful one🙏🏾
Yes ✨ as someone who has maybe sometimes always needed the last word (🤣) which can get me into an argument I didn't plan on, I find silence so powerful. It's clear statement of: "No. You aren't treating me that way."